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As people pay more attention to the quality of sex life, many couples seek to change their traditional sexual habits and try various novel sexual techniques and positions. What misunderstandings and safety hazards exist? Recently, the reporter interviewed experts in sexual medicine and sexual sociology. Experts remind people that new and unusual sexual methods can be tried, but they should be done according to personal circumstances and to prevent harm to the body.
Don't try risky sexual behaviors. Professor Ma Xiaonian, a famous sexologist, executive director of the Chinese Society of Sexology and chairman of the Sexual Medicine Professional Committee of the Chinese Society of Sexology, accepted a telephone interview with reporters at his home in Beijing. He said that the naked death of Hunan female teacher Huang Jing reminds us that the premise of a harmonious sex life is safety first.
"It is necessary to emphasize the importance of sexual responsibility, respect yourself and your partner, and avoid hurting yourself or others." Professor Ma Xiaonian said that according to information published online, Jiang Junwu completed sexual intercourse by riding on his girlfriend Huang Jing's chest when her girlfriend Huang Jing was unwilling to have sex. This posture should not be a big problem for a normal person, but for a heart patient, an accident may occur. When people enter a state of sexual excitement and reach orgasm, their heartbeat and breathing will significantly speed up, and a lot of physical energy will be consumed. Therefore, before engaging in sexual intercourse, you should understand the other person's and your own body to avoid accidents.
Professor Ma Xiaonian said that when people have sex, safety should be the first priority, and quality should come second. It is right to pursue changes in sex life, and different positions can bring freshness, but safety should come first. In an abnormal body position, some intense movements can not only easily cause abrasions, lacerations and heavy bleeding in the female vagina, but also may cause damage or even breakage to the male genitals. This is because the genitals are squeezed by the abnormal body position of the woman in a congested state, and the white membrane outside the corpus cavernosum will be unable to bear the weight and rupture.
He specifically pointed out that people should not try dangerous behaviors such as "asphyxiation sex". The so-called "asphyxiation sex" is to use props such as sheets, tape, and plastic bags to cover the mouth and nose during sex, causing local organs to contract highly due to lack of air, thereby creating an instantaneous sexual pleasure that is almost like suffocation. Doing so can easily result in death due to momentary confusion.
Don't exaggerate the role of sexual techniques. Professor Xu Yuancheng, a member of the Andrology Branch of the Chinese Medical Association, said: In the clinic, we often receive patients who are injured due to special sexual behaviors. Some of them insert glass balls into the female vagina and cannot be taken out; some of them use bearings to cover the penis and cannot be taken off; and some special sexual positions cause the male penis to break and the female cervix to be injured. Experts warn that most of the sexual movements in "Lust, Caution" are abnormal positions, and can only be performed by women with experience in yoga and gymnastics and relatively flexible bodies. If ordinary people blindly imitate them, they may easily suffer fractures and ligament injuries, and their nervous system may also be affected.
Xu Yuancheng believes that over-exaggerating the role of sexual skills in sex and marriage may backfire. If a husband ignores his wife's emotional needs, simplifies sex life, or even turns it into a "task" or "performance," he will not only find it difficult to gain his wife's heartfelt recognition and dependence, but may also hurt his wife's personality and emotions. Once the wife fails to actively cooperate due to emotional, physical or other reasons, the husband is likely to experience a stronger sense of frustration and loss, and may even cause inexplicable misunderstandings between the couple.
In fact, the frequency of sexual life and the degree of physical energy consumption of a couple are basically determined by their physical condition and age. Couples of different ages and physical conditions should choose sexual techniques that are acceptable to both of them and can actually create physical and mental happiness based on the actual situation.
Xiaohan has hosted a late-night talk show on a radio station for seven years and has a high influence among the listeners. She told reporters that sexual behavior is receiving more and more attention, but there are many misunderstandings and scientific guidance is urgently needed. "Once a male listener called me excitedly and said that in order to increase pleasure during sex, his wife put metal rings on her vagina and nipples to increase the pleasure. I immediately pointed out to him on the show that sex should first be safe and healthy. Such a traumatic method is very likely to cause infection and cause great harm to the body and mind. We should be cautious about the momentary pleasure that comes at the cost of long-term pain."
Xiaohan said that nowadays many young people become bored with conventional sexual behaviors after three to five years of marriage, so they try various novel sexual behaviors, but when the novelty is no longer there, they feel bored and disappointed. I often say in my show, what does sex bring us? It is not just sexual stimulation. When we are in physical contact, we give each other care, appreciation, love, recognition, and a kind of spiritual satisfaction. Once you realize this, you will not focus all your attention on the intensity of sensory stimulation, but will achieve a harmonious state of being in perfect harmony from mind to body. In this way, two people together will feel fully refreshed and in tune with each other. People often say that a woman is a book that needs to be read carefully. A woman’s love cannot be easily opened with the simple key of “sexual skills”. The results of a random survey of women showed that although 90% of women believe that sex life plays a very important role in marriage, 48.9% of women believe that sincere communication and understanding between couples are more conducive to enhancing feelings than sexual skills.
Experts remind you to be careful not to use sexual techniques to defeat the purpose. In most cases, sexual techniques only focus on the connection between sexual stimulation and sexual response, which can easily cause a disconnect between sex and love and is not conducive to expressing the concern and care between couples. This is just like over-reliance on sexual tools, which is not conducive to emotional communication between couples. Because sex requires the wholehearted commitment of both men and women, including the cultivation of emotions, mutual understanding of the world of the opposite sex, and the coordination and cultivation of sexual psychology, etc. In this process, sexual skills are at best a carrier.
A middle-aged man once said with emotion that he had always thought that breasts were his wife's sexually sensitive parts, but he only recently realized that she actually preferred him to caress her back! And the back is obviously not a sexually sensitive area in the traditional sense. So he said that women's "sexual thoughts" are hard to guess!
There was also a young woman who was actually a "sucker"! Her original intention was to experience less pain during her first sexual intercourse on her wedding night. So she deliberately read some books on sexual techniques. The books said that if women can take a positive and proactive attitude in their sexual life and "warm up" their bodies first, they can have more happiness and less pain and trouble! However, when she followed the books, her husband unreasonably suspected that she had had sexual experience.
There is also a husband who is particularly keen on practicing sexual techniques. He uses at least 3-5 different caressing methods during each sexual intercourse, not to mention frequent changes in sexual positions and stimulation methods. But his wife's real feeling was "torture!" The reason is easy to understand, because whether men or women want to reach orgasm, they must rely on short and uninterrupted pressure, as well as continuous and rhythmic stimulation. If the method of sexual stimulation is changed frequently, the intensity of each individual stimulation method will decrease, which is not conducive to the arrival of orgasm. Moreover, excessive emphasis on sexual skills will also cause invisible pressure on both spouses. For example, the one who performs sexual skills will worry that his or her skills are not good enough, and the other party may doubt whether there is something wrong with his or her sexual response!
Alternative sex should be done in moderation. From basic sexual satisfaction to sexual well-being, some alternative ways of having sex such as video sex and lathe sex have emerged. As a way to increase sexual passion, there is nothing wrong with outdoor sex, lathe sex, and video masturbation. However, it is dangerous if it is widely promoted as a special preference in sex life, making many young people feel that they cannot experience the stimulation of sex without doing so. |
