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[Rejecting Sexual Requests—Boyfriend Edition]
How do you respond when your boyfriend asks for sex? Many girls have faced this situation. So, if they don’t want to have sex, how should they deal with their boyfriend’s sexual demands? The suggestions are as follows:
First case:
You are a very principled girl with strong self-discipline, and you firmly believe that you can resist temptation no matter what the circumstances.
However, what you should do is definitely not to say no with a straight face, let alone to make accusations. If you ridicule your boyfriend's request, the result will be that you stick to your principles and he loses face, and your relationship will be overshadowed or even end directly. There are many sensible answers (make sure you can say them in the above situation). Here are a few:
1. I'm sorry, I can't do that. Because we don't know each other well enough, I have to be responsible for my own choices and can't be so casual, as that would hurt both of us.
2. I just want to be friends with you now. I hope we can naturally go from being friends to being together, can you wait?
3. I am really touched by your words (half-jokingly), but I don’t want to hear what you say, I want to see what you do.
4. If we are really destined to be together, we will always belong to each other. Since you said you really love me, there is still a long time to come, so why not save the most beautiful moment for the wedding night?
5. I love you very much. If you really love me too, please respect me, respect my choices, and respect yourself. Let us mature together in self-discipline, okay?
Be gentle but firm. I believe that any reasonable boy, as long as he really loves you, will accept your rejection because of your persistence. And you will find that learning to refuse sexual relations will turn you into a thoughtful, mature and stable person. When you are able to express your feelings with words and thoughts, rather than just physical contact, it is a stronger indicator of the deepening of the relationship between two people.
Second case:
Not all girls can be as resolute as mentioned above. Most girls will be at a loss and hesitant in certain situations, and will give themselves up in a confused state with extremely conflicted hearts. Some of these girls care too much about the other party's feelings and are afraid that the other party will be unhappy and cannot bear to say no; some are too embarrassed to say it clearly and their rejection attitude is not firm and clear enough, making the boys more imaginative; more often, two people become infatuated and lose control in a specific atmosphere and situation that is romantic, exciting or drunken. In short, there are many reasons and situations. What I want to do is to give girls like this some useful ideas.
Let’s start from the beginning of love. When you are in love for the first time, both parties are very happy, and even feel a little overwhelmed. At this time, it is best for you to come to a gentleman's agreement or three rules with your lover. If he loses control in the future, you will have the upper hand both emotionally and logically.
Secondly, during the relationship, try to avoid creating an environment that is prone to cheating as much as possible.
Finally, let’s talk about an emergency measure. If the situation becomes critical and you can't say it righteously and saying "no" gently doesn't work, you might as well bring up "period". If the other party believes it, then he will believe it. If he doesn’t believe it, it’s probably difficult to say anything. The purpose of rejection will naturally be achieved. (Note: This method has immediate effects, but unfortunately it is difficult to have long-term effects)
【Rejection of sexual requests—General】
If you are facing unwanted sexual assault, you can:
First of all, you need to stay calm and find ways to stabilize the other person (pretend to be obedient, deceive with witty lies, etc.), buy time to ask others for help, escape, or use your body, objects at hand or around you to attack the other person's vital parts (eyes, head, genitals).
When facing your lover's sexual demands, you can:
Don't agree rashly, but refuse tactfully so as not to hurt the other person's feelings and self-esteem, but your attitude must be firm and clear. It is best to express your thoughts to each other honestly and frankly.
When facing someone who offers you “help”, you can:
Make your refusal clear, learn to be independent in all aspects, and gradually repay the "help" they provide. |
