First you have to get her lubricated. There are many lubricants you can use, some of which are particularly thick. Petroleum products like Vaseline or Abolene are great for keeping the applied surface from drying out and eliminating the need for reapplication. However, this type of oil can stain your sheets, and some people don't like the feeling of applying it. This type of lubricant should not be used with latex products such as condoms because it will damage the latex material. Many water-soluble lubricants also have different viscosities. We recommend that you use Kelly Jelly, which has a good viscosity among water-soluble lubricants. It's quite fun to apply lubricant all over your sexual organs. If you've been caressing your clitoris for a while and it starts to feel dry, you can dip your fingertips in some water and add it to the original lubricant, and the applied area will restore its original lubrication. Some people prefer to use a very liquid form of Astroglide. You can create your own style of applying lubricant. This depends on the type of oil you prefer and its viscosity. You can lubricate your partner during a nice caress. When I use KY gel, I usually apply it slowly along the labia majora and minora, starting from the perineum. I use two or three fingers, and when I reach the clitoris, I spread my fingers apart, being careful to avoid lubrication on the clitoris. Another method is to lubricate the two labia minora separately with slow and careful caresses. This is a good technique for those who like to apply Vaseline. You can take some time to lubricate the labia minora, and then caress and apply it back and forth in the opposite direction when you are almost close to the clitoris. You can also caress the area just below her clitoris, called the vestibule, and you can even work your way up from the bottom of the clitoris, letting your fingertips rest on the clitoris for a few seconds before returning to the vestibule. You can invent all kinds of creative ways to apply lubricant to your partner, giving her a different surprise every time you make love. There are two parts of her body that you must keep dry: the foreskin covering her clitoris and the thumb of the hand you are using to caress her. This way, your thumb won't slip away when you pull back the foreskin and press on her clitoris. It's easy for the clitoris to slip away during caressing, which usually happens the first time you caress someone. It's a natural reaction from the body. Sometimes the same thing happens again even after caressing the other person many times. Some women's clitorises slide more easily than others when caressed. The clitoris is buried deep inside the foreskin, and pressing it with your fingers can prevent it from slipping away. To press the clitoris, first you must use the fleshy part of your thumb to push the foreskin above her clitoris to the left (if you are right-handed), and then press towards her clitoris, which is where the top of the clitoris meets the shaft. Then lift the foreskin to expose the clitoris. If you are left-handed, push your left thumb toward the left side of the foreskin to expose the clitoris. At this point you can feel free to touch the clitoris directly with your middle finger or index finger, and your thumb can apply gentle to moderate force to prevent slipping when pressing the clitoris. Some people have difficulty pulling back the foreskin to reveal the clitoris. If you have the same problem, you can use your free hand to help pull the foreskin back. You can place your palm on the pubic hair area and use your fingers to press the foreskin upwards until you can see the clitoris. You can also ask your female partner to help you pull the foreskin back with your fingers. |