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Boys must have suffered a lot when it comes to pursuing girls they like. In fact, I personally have also encountered setbacks everywhere before, which is why sometimes when I see questions like "I fall in love with a certain girl, then what?" on the BBS, I can empathize with her.
Conditionalism First, let me give a very general description.
In fact, if you look at it from a numerical analysis perspective, the world is half male and half female. Intuition tells us that it is not difficult to get a girlfriend, but why is it that for many boys, getting a girlfriend is like the little fox in the prophecy story who wandered into the vineyard, looked up, and saw bunches of mouth-watering grapes, but could not pick or eat even one?
Many people attribute the reason they can’t get a girlfriend to the “condition theory”, that is, they think girls don’t choose them because they are not good enough. They don't understand why men like them who know how to give and cherish girls are not popular. So they think that girls today are superficial and only care about appearance, money and fun.
Having said that, I personally think that most men who fall into the myth of "conditional theory" have a sour grapes mentality. Not being tall enough, not being handsome enough, and not being rich enough are just excuses for failure in love. As far as I know, this world is inherently unfair. The key is how you play it like Big Two. Even if the cards you are dealt are mediocre, you can still use superior card skills to win.
The Psychology of Love Of course, the key lies in a thorough understanding of what I call "the psychology of love." For example, what does a woman want from a man deep down in her heart? What potential environmental factors will influence women when choosing men?
Let me give you an example. Same product, two brands, why is one selling like hot cakes while the other is unpopular? We are all men, why do some people have such different fates? Why are some men so charming, while some men can only be "friends" until the end of time?
Have you ever gone shopping with a girl? What is the difference between a 200 yuan bag sold at a roadside stall and a genuine LV bag? They are both used to store things, but in the eyes of women, there is a world of difference between them. For many women, the actual meaning of men is no longer as great as before. Instead, what matters is what it symbolizes to be in a relationship with this man and what message it conveys in the eyes of others.
This is true in the business world and in the love world.
In addition to understanding what women want, it is equally important for women to have the power to take the lead by understanding the trends in the overall environment. With the rise of women's consciousness, women today are becoming more independent and open-minded. Perhaps you think that a woman's autonomy and openness are good for you, but you must understand that this is only possible with the woman's consent. In other words, if you try to use coercion to influence her thoughts or force her to be with you, you are courting death.
Some boys try every possible means to please girls, even begging them, and chase them until they are exhausted, but in the end the girls still refuse to agree. The reason is very simple. It's not that girls are heartless, but because you do these things for her with intention, not without asking for anything in return, so in the eyes of girls it is just a sugar-coated coercive method. This is why many boys act like they are performing a one-man show when pursuing girls. No one pays attention to them and they blame the girls for watching the show but not paying. This is simply putting the cart before the horse. Do you understand what I mean?
How to Make Her Like You At this point, you may be confused: What should I do to make a girl like me? According to my research, there are two basic principles that determine why a girl is attracted to a boy. I won't go into detail here, but to put it simply, you have to be able to arouse her imagination about you.
Ross Jeffries, the "Master of Hunting for Beauty", once said something profound. He said, "If you can arouse a woman's curiosity about you and keep her imagination about you, her affection for you will be spontaneous rather than forced, and she will not resist you." You can think about this sentence carefully yourself.
The Story of the Bad Dolphin I read such a parable a few years ago.
How to train wild dolphins? The dolphin is smart but bad. It still doesn't obey after eating the fish given by the trainer. Later, the trainer came up with a method, which was to give the dolphins a whole bucket of fish at a time, and then stop giving them more after they had their full meal. The panicked dolphin was shocked by the trainer's 180-degree change and began to do everything he could to please the trainer. Gradually, it discovered that when it performed the actions required by the trainer correctly, the trainer would reward it with a fish. After repeated actions, the bad dolphin turned into a good dolphin.
What have we learned from the story just now: withdraw at the right time and retreat to advance? Although men and women should treat each other sincerely, even dolphins have to use some skills to win over others. I believe it is not excessive for you to use some tricks in the process of pursuing girls. This is why I am very opposed to the persistent offensive, because it is probably the most crude and uncreative method.
Remember, your goal is to inspire a girl's imagination about you. If you are used to the strategy of constantly pleasing girls, I suggest you withdraw at the right time to achieve the effect of retreating to advance. Because when you cool down a little, the girl will start to feel uneasy, and she will start to have wild thoughts: "Doesn't he like me anymore? Could he have a new target..." But what she doesn't understand is that when she starts to have these thoughts about you, your importance increases, and then the probability of her falling in love with you will also increase, like a chain reaction.
My advice to you:
Don't do everything to please girls;
His eyes revealed confidence, knowing what he wanted;
Have principles about certain things, and don't deliberately modify them because of the presence of girls;
Treat beautiful women and ugly women equally to some extent;
Keep a sense of mystery, and don't empty yourself just to pursue a girl;
There are always more important goals to achieve in life than girls;
If a girl goes too far, she can leave at any time;
Do not hold a coercive attitude and respect girls’ decisions;
Won't cling like a fly! |
