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The first time a man should pay attention to the following points:
1. Too excited:
It is natural to be excited that something that has been anticipated and eagerly hoped for for many years can finally come true. But often the first sexual intercourse fails because of being too excited. An overexcited brain is extremely sensitive to sexual stimulation, which can easily lead to hair-trigger situations, premature ejaculation, or even ejaculation before normal sexual intercourse, sexual failure, and easily leave a shadow on future life.
The solution is to try to create a relaxed environment and reserve enough time for the first time so that everything can be carried out in a leisurely manner. If the environment for sex is not good or the time is very tight, it is better not to have sex.
Because it is easy to fail when having sex in a bad environment or with tight time, this can easily cast a shadow on your future sex life.
If you feel that you are too excited, don't rush to bed. You can calm down first and sit on the sofa.
At this time, you can take off your clothes, let both parties get used to each other's nakedness, and have gentle contact. This will allow the overly excited brain nerves to relax and avoid explosive situations.
Of course, it is definitely not easy for young people to learn to control their emotions. This requires years of adjustment through life practice, but at least you should learn to be less impatient. For men, sex is like a dish of "cold dish" that tastes good only after being frozen. "Eating it too quickly" is not fun and may even bring you harm! Some patients with premature ejaculation cannot control themselves well when they start having sex, which leads to multiple episodes of being on the verge of ejaculation, forming a vicious cycle and causing functional premature ejaculation.
My advice is to leave more time for yourself when preparing for your first time having sex. If you have the whole day, you shouldn't rush into just a few minutes! Give yourself more time to relax and regulate your emotions to avoid over-excitement of the brain! There are various ways and methods: chatting, playing games, and small sports for two. ．
And so on, it depends on your own preferences.
2. Understand and be familiar with the location of female sexual organs:
This is by no means a redundant topic. In China, where sex education is lagging behind, many people cannot find the correct position of the vagina for the first time. This may seem absurd, but it actually happens all the time.
Because when people are highly sexually excited, they act solely on instinct, and people who have no sexual experience may not know the correct location of the vagina. This is not a joke!
In addition to browsing the pictures provided by some sex information websites, you can also become familiar with the location of a woman's vagina through intimacy and caressing before sex. Once you have a perceptual understanding of the location of the vagina, sexual intercourse will be easier to succeed.
3. Pay attention to the woman’s feelings:
If the woman is also experiencing sex for the first time, she will be much more nervous than you! She is nervous and needs your care and gentleness to eliminate her nervousness. If you are too impatient and forcefully enter the woman before she is nervous and sexually excited, her vaginal opening will be tightly closed, which will only cause her severe pain and even make it impossible to continue sexual intercourse.
Only when a woman's tension is eliminated and sexual excitement is fully aroused, will the labia majora and minora become engorged, the vaginal opening be exposed, and the penis be able to "slide" smoothly into the vagina due to the appearance of vaginal secretions and "leakage" fluid. All of this is designed by "God", but you must adapt to its occurrence. Being too impatient will only end in failure or even pain.
To eliminate the woman's nervousness, you should caress and kiss her more, let her feel your love, so that good sexual excitement will be aroused. When a woman is sexually aroused, her tension disappears and her sexual organs begin to prepare physiologically for sexual intercourse (the most obvious sign is that vaginal secretions flow out fully to prepare for lubrication).
, only at this time can you enter the sexual intercourse stage.
If the woman is still nervous, you can use personal lubricant (available at adult stores) during the first intercourse.
Apply it to the woman's vaginal opening and the man's glans before sex to act as a lubricant. This can avoid friction and pain during sexual intercourse caused by vaginal dryness.
For men and women who are experiencing sexual intercourse for the first time, it is normal that the first time may not be satisfactory or successful. The key is to find out the shortcomings and keep working hard. Don't doubt yourself easily and don't carry unnecessary burdens on yourself.
After a period of study and exploration, and if necessary, you can consult professionals, you will gradually get on the right track. |
