Chapter 1 of Picking Up Girls: Lay a Solid Foundation When You First Start Picking Up Girls is Always Hard at the Beginning! Maybe you met the girl you like. And ready to attack. So in the early stages of dating girls. What kind of first impression should you leave on MM? 1. To pick up girls, you must first let them see that you are ambitious. The greatest charm of a man lies in his successful career. Young people cannot be considered "successful" if they have not worked for a long time. When you are picking up girls, you have to make them feel that you are a motivated person. You can talk nonsense about other things, but you can't be vague about this question. You must tell MM that you are full of confidence in the future, you are not satisfied with the status quo, and you already have long-term plans. In short, your future is not a dream. 2. To pick up girls, you need to appear mature, responsible, and caring. Since most girls are petite and weak by nature, they must behave maturely. Men who are calm and unhurried in the face of difficulties have a fatal attraction to girls. When picking up girls, don't act like a child. Girls all want to find someone to rely on, so you need to show your confidence and sense of responsibility. Make her feel that you can protect her and let her depend on you. 3. When picking up girls, remember not to be too serious, but also not too casual. The humor in your conversation can attract a girl and make her feel happy to be with you. Be serious when it is necessary, and be humorous when it is necessary. Girls like guys who are a little cynical, so don't seem to care about everything, as that would be too dull. Chapter 2 of Picking Up Girls: Proceed Step by Step and Be Careful to the End Now that you have given a good first impression to the girl, how do you proceed to the next step of picking up girls? 1. When picking up girls, don’t be so obvious. People can tell at a glance that you are pursuing them. Think about it, most people won’t like you at first sight, but they won’t hate you at first sight either, because they are all children of ordinary people (unless you look like Chow Yun-fat and Andy Lau). Favor is achieved as your understanding of each other increases, so the key to the issue is the opportunity you want to get for further development. Think about it from the girl's perspective: if you come up to her so directly and ask her to date you, she will definitely feel psychologically pressured. If he finds out he doesn't like you after getting to know you for a while, wouldn't that be playing a trick on you? So if you start out with an attitude that you are determined to win, you will basically be rejected immediately. 2. When picking up girls, you must start with a humble attitude and don’t ask for a “girlfriend” right away. When picking up girls, you should first define the relationship as "friends". If you are originally "ordinary friends", you hope to become "good friends". A tasteful way to pick up girls can also ask the other party to become your "close female friend" or something like that. In short, never say "I'm pursuing you". Think about it, if you don’t even mention “pursuing”, then the girl will have even less chance to “reject” you - how can she reject you if you don’t pursue her? This can reduce the girl's psychological pressure and allow you to continue your relationship smoothly. Don’t fantasize that she will agree to marry you after knowing you for only three days. You need to have sufficient communication and understanding. Feelings don’t come out of thin air. 3. Don’t be too impatient when picking up girls. When picking up girls, you need to be relaxed and at ease. Don't cling to them all day long. If someone treats you like that, you will get tired of him. The key to picking up girls is eight words - "hot and cold, playing hard to get". If you cling to her all day long, she naturally won't think of you as a good person. If you give her the cold shoulder for a day or two, she will remember your good points. Also, don't show the ambition of "I will not marry anyone but you". That shows the impulsive image of an ignorant little boy, and it is too cheap for a man. 4. To pick up girls, you need to create appropriate romantic opportunities. As mentioned before, don't let the matter of picking up girls immediately turn into "you are chasing someone else", but you need to get the opportunity to get close to girls, then it depends on your creativity. You can collect information and find ways to turn waiting into an encounter; you can also pretend to be casual and find the most sufficient reason to invite the other person to do something with you. In short, this is the most technically demanding part, and it depends on your personal creativity and understanding. 5. When picking up girls, remember this: It is impolite to give people gifts casually. Some people are eager to pick up girls and like to buy things for them frequently, but they don't know that this is the most taboo in picking up girls. As the saying goes, "No merit, no reward", when you give people things like this, you are putting pressure on them. They will feel that they owe you something, so they will find a way to repay you. If they can't repay you, they will find a way to avoid interacting with you, so as to avoid always owing you favors. If you want to show your sincerity, you might as well invite your girlfriend to spend money with you, for example, find a good restaurant to eat, or find an expensive place to play together. Girls can naturally see that you have spent a lot of money, but after all, the money is spent by two people together instead of turning it into things to take home, so she will be more likely to accept it. Chapter 3 of Picking Up Girls: Recognize the Essence and Act Accordingly 1. Picking up girls “girlfriend” is a fact, not a promise. You start dating a girl, from "ordinary friends" to "good friends", and then to "very, very good friends who can talk about anything". One sunny afternoon, you "accidentally" hold her hand; when the moon is above the willows, you suddenly kiss her. At this point she is already your girlfriend, whether she admits it or not, she already thinks of you as her boyfriend. I know the smartest one, who never asked “Will you be my girlfriend?” until they had sex. In the end, the girl still got anxious and said, “Why don’t you beg me to be your girlfriend?” So, don’t be in a hurry to break the window paper. The more ambiguous the situation is, the better it is for you. 2. When picking up girls, don’t confess your feelings blindly, but grasp the opportunity. As mentioned before, confessing your love to girls is actually just a formality. The correct order should be: only when she has actually become your girlfriend can you confess your love to her, and it will come naturally. Many people don’t understand this problem. They always think that the other person should first agree to be their girlfriend and then they can do this and that. I can only say that they are very, very “stupid”. 3. When picking up girls, are there times when you have no choice but to confess your feelings? have! For example, a third party appears, or your relationship with the girl is not mature but the two of you may be separated for a period of time. Confession of love to girls at this time is a confession made under immature conditions and is very risky, similar to when playing Go and the situation is grim. The lagging party is forced to make a "winning move" and if they win, they win, but if they lose, they can only say "bad luck is innate." All in YiBo. 4. Don’t say the word “love” easily when picking up girls. I often see “bold confessions of love for picking up girls”, and to be honest, I really think this is a very immature behavior. "Love" is a sacred word. It means pursuit, commitment, and even responsibility. A man who says "love" casually is irresponsible. I think that “love” is not something that needs to be “done”, it is a very heavy word. Chapter 4 of Picking Up Girls: Be civilized in love and don’t force it. 1. Picking up girls is a serious social activity. When picking up girls, don’t annoy them and leave yourself a way out. Why should a real man worry about not having a wife? Some girls are indeed snobbish (a minority). If you are not convinced, you can work hard and use facts to prove that "she was blind at the time". Never do anything stupid and never mislead others and yourself. 2. Not every girl can be picked up by you. Good girls will always have a lot of suitors. It is impossible to fulfill everyone's wish to pick up girls, and there will always be losers. Picking up girls is a material thing, but it is definitely not material. Picking up girls requires a material basis, or at least a relative balance. Basically, these are the principles of picking up girls, but you must pay attention to applying them flexibly. The strategy for picking up girls is dead, but people are alive. You cannot use a dead strategy for picking up girls to hit on a living person. When picking up girls, remember to analyze the specific situation. Finally, I wish all the guys who read this article on picking up girls can pick up the girls of their dreams. Picking up girls is a very rational behavior. So, for example, Ye Zi asked, "Can I date you?" when they first met, Xiao Qi asked, "I want to fuck your mouth," and Big Belly asked, "Miss, do you want to try the belly pillow?" The rejection rate is often high because of being too impulsive and not rational enough. However, it is not advisable for students like Lulu to get nervous when seeing girls and still be a virgin after dating for a long time. Therefore, sometimes you need to be proactive and passionate to pick up girls. Part 2: The first rule in pursuing a girl is to be sincere. Insincerity will only bring bitterness to yourself and others. The second is not to force yourself. The third is to be clever. Generally, you can’t be too explicit and just say “I love you” on a first date…the girl will be scared. There are different ways to chase different types of girls. After observing the beautiful girls around me over the years, the author summarizes it as follows: ◎◎◎ Come here and tell us your experience. 1. Chase the silent and arrogant girls. There are many girls of this type, and friends often encounter them. At first glance, they seem to be quite easy to deal with. In fact, this kind of girls are indifferent on the outside, but often fanatical on the inside. They generally like wilder boys. They may be extremely dismissive of you at the beginning, but you must not be discouraged. You can even shamelessly invite them to watch a movie, go dancing, ice skating, or go to the study room they often go to. Be sure to find more opportunities to express yourself (of course, I’ll save saying “I love you” for the end, haha). For this type of girl, your true feelings are very attractive, and it usually takes a longer time to pursue her. If you are about to graduate or leave school, it seems better not to do it so as not to waste time. But after you get her, she will usually be devoted to you, and you will be the happiest BF in the world! Claim: How to get started with chasing girls** 2. Chasing a romantic and imaginative girl. If you really fall in love with such a girl, let me warn you first - you will have to experience all the ups and downs of life! This kind of girl seems to pursue spiritual things more than material things. In fact, it is just the opposite. Romance requires money to create. If you don’t have enough financial resources, I hope you will consider it carefully. Since she loves romance, flowers, and chocolates, giving her more gifts will be the best way to touch her heart. If you want to pursue this kind of girl, don't be stingy with your money. You should try your best to get her what she wants without hesitation. Roses and snacks are the subtleties that show your affection. In short, if you want to pursue this kind of girl, you must cultivate the ability to understand girls' minds. Don't forget to bribe the girl's roommates and classmates a lot, they will tell you a lot of useful information. And don't dress in a rustic way. When you ask her out, take her to romantic places more often, such as outings, dances, watching romance movies... She will gradually become dependent on your care and concern, haha! Although such a girl will cost you a lot of money, she will also bring you a lot of beautiful fun, and your life will be happy and fulfilling. Eight rules for campus boys to pursue girls 3. Pursue a gentle and considerate girl This type of girl is a giving type. Once she becomes your GF, she will be considerate, caring, gentle and amiable to you, making you feel the warmth of love. If you can chase this kind of girl, theoretically you will become the most comfortable man. This type of girl should be easier to pursue (and suitable for all types of boys), as long as she doesn't hate you and you are worthy of her. If you are pursuing her, first of all, you need to care for her in life and study. It does not require material things, but a kind of care from the heart, and appear in front of her when she needs help (a reminder here: you must observe more often in normal times to find a good opportunity to make a move.) Of course, if you are a romantic person, sending flowers as gifts during festivals is a foolproof choice. At the beginning, you can give her some friendship gifts, and when you feel the time is right (for example, when she starts to look at you differently from the way she looks at others or when she seems a little at a loss in front of you...), you can give her roses! If you don't intend to be so lavish, you can suddenly say something like "It feels so good to be with you" during the casual chat after self-study on weekdays. If she doesn't avoid it, you can strike while the iron is hot and say what you have wanted to say for a long time. The best time is at night, when people's defense capabilities are weaker; if she starts to avoid you, don't force her, you can just show concern for her silently. Until she was moved. Don't think that this kind of girl is honest and you will be safe once you chase her. In fact, it depends on the individual. Some girls will be easily shaken if you are separated from them for a certain period of time and someone else shows her attention, so you'd better not let her leave you for too long. If you really can't do that, you should write letters and call her frequently. Handbook: Thirty-six Strategies to Pick Up Girls with the Force of Universal Gravitation 4. Chase the lively and cute girls. It seems that many people like this type of girls, and they are often the first to have a boyfriend in a new environment. It’s not because they are easy to chase, but because they often want to be in an active position. If she likes you too, it will be much easier. Spend more time with her, and occasionally express your affection for her, and she will move closer to your goal at the same time as you. If she doesn't like you (or worse, she falls in love with someone else), don't be discouraged. You can start with a friendship and try to develop common hobbies with her. During this period, your humor and open-mindedness are very important. If the guy she likes is not interested in her, then you can take it slow until she becomes more proactive towards you than towards that guy. This is when you can adopt an obvious strategy. If she has a boyfriend she likes, and if you think she is worthy of you taking the blame for stealing someone else's love, then the opportunity is very important at this time. You have to observe carefully and take advantage of the time when they have conflicts or misunderstandings (it doesn't seem likely... haha), and get there first. In the end, victory may belong to you. This kind of girl may still be liked by other people who don't know the truth after she has a boyfriend. You should inform her in time, "Please! She belongs to me!" The result should be relatively optimistic. Handbook: Seven ways to survive after being caught while picking up girls 5. Chase hysterical girls. The typical characteristic of this type of girl is that she expresses her emotions openly, cries when she wants to, laughs when she wants to, and often makes people feel a little ridiculous. This type of girl is like a wild horse. If you feel you don't have enough ability to enslave her, don't even think about pursuing her. If you feel good about yourself, you can give it a try. First of all, you have to give her the impression that you are very awesome and let her admire you. Before pursuing her, you'd better summarize your strengths and design a time to show them so that she will look up to you unconsciously. Once you have this good start, you can launch a full-scale attack. You don't have to be servile at all. Just go on a few more dates with her (you can choose a friend who is not as handsome or stronger than you to protect you, haha), show your charm more often, and her heart will slowly move towards you. Don't chase her right away, otherwise she will be gone as quickly as she comes. You should play hard to get and let her fall into your trap. Your task is to create as many opportunities as possible to get in touch with and show your own talents, and wait until her heart is completely convinced by you before slowly making it clear... Emotion: A full record of the actual combat exercises of elite girls in picking up girls 6. Chasing girls older than oneself Liking girls who are older than oneself is a common problem for college students. For those who are new to the love field, there is no need to panic when encountering this situation. Just keep moving forward courageously! However, you must keep the following points in mind during your pursuit: 1. Never act like a little boy. Even a truly mature woman hopes in her heart that she is the one who is pampered rather than the one who pampers others. When you encounter difficulties or problems, you must take the lead, and don't ask her to protect you. Your own subjective judgment is very important. Don't just follow the crowd in front of the girl you like. 2. "My mental age is older than yours" should be your mantra when she has an idea, so that she feels that mental age is indeed more real than physical age. 3. You must never think that "she is older than me" in your heart, and you must forget this when pursuing her. True Colors: The Five Levels of Picking Up Girls |