How long is the perfect sex time? The answer given by researchers at Behrendt College in Pennsylvania, USA is: 7-13 minutes. Fox News reported on March 7 that this is the first large-scale study on the duration of sex. Researchers randomly surveyed thousands of people in the United States and Australia and found that actual sex (starting from contact between sexual organs) is most suitable for 7 to 13 minutes. Most of the respondents, especially men, said that if actual sex lasts more than 13 minutes, they will feel more tired and it will be more difficult to recover their strength; while if it is less than 7 minutes, they will feel that it is not enough. Allegedly, this study is intended to make many people realize that the saying that "perfect sex takes longer and longer" is nonsense. Eric Cote, the lead researcher on the study, explained that people often have some unrealistic "assumptions" about sex. "For example, men should have a thick penis, a firm erection, and be able to make love all night long. This is clearly a wishful 'daydream', yet many people take it for granted and even use it as a criterion for measuring sexual performance." The result is that people without any problems also begin to worry about their sexual performance, which may induce a series of sexual dysfunctions over time. When men deliberately delay, their original intention is nothing more than to hope that women can also get longer-lasting pleasure and ensure that she can reach the wonderful climax. In fact, men should understand that there are many ways to satisfy women. Increasing, changing and enriching the content of foreplay can whet her appetite before actual lovemaking, which is more effective than monotonous mechanical movements. In addition, men should know more about the sensitive areas of their partners and provide gentle and appropriate stimulation, which can better arouse women's desire and allow them to take more initiative in sex. Women themselves should also communicate more with their partners and exchange ideas about problems that arise in their sex lives, to let their partners know that time is not an important factor in determining the quality of sex. Sexual life is a matter between two people. Only when both parties truly pay attention to and listen to each other's needs will it undergo a qualitative change. |